What is Conflict Style?
The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument identifies five strategies people use when interests collide: Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating. It's the most widely used conflict framework in HR, mediation, and executive coaching.
Key Dimensions
Competing
Assertive, uncooperative — wins on facts and force
Collaborating
Assertive and cooperative — both sides win
Compromising
Middle-ground — quick, fair, partial wins
Avoiding
Unassertive — sidesteps, withdraws, delays
Accommodating
Cooperative — yields to preserve the relationship
How We Use Conflict in Compatibility Scoring
EQIQs predicts conflict-resolution patterns between any two people, flags high-friction pairings (e.g., two Competitors), and surfaces the optimal de-escalation script for each pair.
Why Conflict Matters
Conflict style predicts whether disagreements grow the relationship or quietly poison it. Mismatched styles are the #1 cause of cofounder breakups.
Who Uses Conflict?
CPP / The Myers-Briggs Company
Publishes the TKI as one of its flagship assessments alongside MBTI
U.S. Federal Mediation Service
Uses Thomas-Kilmann profiling in labor mediation training
💡 Did you know?
The TKI is administered to over 7M people per year and is the most-cited conflict instrument in published management research.
Research & Further Reading
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